It’s been more than two weeks now since Bob died. The days crawl by except when they don’t. Some seem to slip through our hands like water. It’s been rough, to say the least. I can only imagine how my momma feels or is handling it all. I’ve been with her as much as I could be since it all happened, which is not enough at times and probably too much at others.
Here are some things I’ve learned:
- Everyone should MAKE OUT A WILL! I cannot stress this enough. Leave it all to the cat, if you want to, but make out a will.
- I need a new phone with good service that will actually works wherever I am
- Death is often ugly and the people left behind usually act ugly when it happens
- It will happen to every single one of us — prepare for it. Make it as easy for the ones you love, who are left behind, as possible. It’s hard enough learning to live without someone you love without all the extra crap that will happen, if you don’t.
- Expect the worst. Sad, but true.
- Attorneys are confusing and expensive. For the money you pay, they should confirm each other instead of contradicting each other. Makes me want to scream!
- If you are in a permanent, committed couple relationship, put each other’s name on everything — bank accounts, homes, all properties of any kind — take care of each other in this way
- Suicide is so incredibly selfish, especially if you have not done the things I’ve said above. (I’m sorry Momma, maybe I shouldn’t say that, but I feel it.)
- Dogs are cheaper than alarm systems, but a lot more work
- Death is expensive and time-consuming for those left behind
- Things that seem so important, will be left by the wayside in your efforts to take care of the business of death
- This is not my first time down the “death” road, but in many ways it’s the most difficult
- I could scream! Very often
Well, that’s enough venting and letting you know how I am. For those of you who have asked, Momma is dealing with things the best she can. She’s trying to learn to live alone again. It’s a bitch and a lot of work. It’s exhausting and so sad. It’s what she has to do. It just about kills me to see her this way, but neither of us has a choice in it.
I’ll leave you with this one thought, just in case you didn’t get it from everything you’ve read here: Make out a will! You owe it to those you love.